There is so much to do online, it is easy to spend hours moving from site to site – writing, playing, shopping, gambling – almost anything you can do in real life, you can do on the Internet today.
Peace is something that we can pretend to have too. Do you know a person, or are you, completely calm on the outside, but a withering mess inside? This person is someone who has buried their own issues so deeply and assumed a stance of peace-maker because it helps them to get through life.
When we learn to recognize what we are feeling, accept it and breathe into it – whatever it is, and we combine this emotional awareness with a clear and focused mind, we have the formula for emotional intelligence. In her book Radical Acceptance, Tara Brach suggests that when joy arises, when gratitude arises, when love arises – it’s easy to embrace it. The gift is when we can say “and this too” when the anger, sadness and fear emerge, and accept and embrace them too.
Yet another enabler to Generation Excess was the information age that they grew up with. The growth of the media brought things into the home in a way that had never been encountered before. Children were bombarded by the many types of “stuff” that were available to them. The kids attacked the unknowing parents with demands for the images that were being pushed upon their young minds. The children were told that this new “thing” or that new “stuff” would make them happy. They carried this message to the parents that were waiting to do anything to fulfill that happiness. Pretty soon, MP3 players, cable modems, and game systems were ranked on household’s lists the same as food and shelter.
NOTE: This is the truth. The recruiter did send you a can letter that they created to let you know that they will contact you if you are a match. But in the can letter, they didn’t leave their name and direct phone number.
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Open communication is the best way to approach a loved one with a suspected problem. You can do a lot to help them. First of all, their Internet access needs to be managed by someone they trust. This does not have to mean getting rid of the family computer or canceling the Internet connection.
The problem is as we said: a strong negative emotion will most likely generate a still stronger negative emotion. If it happens to you, will you be able to take one step back and direct your rational side to take charge, before hell breaks lose and everything spirals out of control?